Why Its Actually Cool To Learn How To Be Good With Women

When it comes to learning about how to be successful with woman – whether it’s learning amazing sex skill or learning how to pick up women, a large percentage of men immediately go into the defensive when the topic is brought up. This could be you. Perhaps your thinking its creepy to learn this stuff, or you have a series of elaborate excuses in your mind for why you aren’t good with woman. This type of attitude is so incredibly common, and it’s really pretty sad because it’s actually the cause for a lot of problems in the world. It is crucial to learn how to be good with women, and this website can help you learn. Click on Get More Sex in the navigation bar to learn more about how to be good with women. This article is about why you should learn how to be good with women.

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If Men Learn How To Be Good With Woman It Makes The World A Better Place

It’s obvious to anyone with a brain that a man doesn’t have skill with woman is in almost all cases an unsatisfied man. It’s goes deeper than that though. If the problem is large enough, and happens for long enough, some men actually go as far as to hate women, and even rape and violently attack women as an expression of their sexual frustration. This is really sad, because I’m convinced if a man really knew how to be good with woman, it would be highly unlikely that he would do anything like that. Yes, some people are simply psychotic, but if you read about the histories of most serial rapists/serial killers you will find that it typically started with a deep sexual frustration, that then grew into perverted violent fantasies that became more and more violent and perverted as their sexual frustrations grew. If these men had learned how to be good with women, there is a chance they would not have developed this sort of psychotic behavior.

Why Almost All Men Need to Learn How to Be Good With Women

The fact is, women are a mystery to most men. Even if you’ve had a degree of success, perhaps some long term relationships, the chances are good that if you become single again, as tends to happen (take a look at the divorce rate), you find yourself at a loss for how to attract a woman. You might go out to the bars, clubs, even join social groups, but chances are you just find yourself inept at actually talking to woman, getting dates, or getting sex. Perhaps you get lucky once in a while, but it certainly doesn’t happen with any consistency, and you may feel a definite sense of anxiety about the prospect of talking to the kind of ridiculously hot looking, high value woman that you truly want.

A lot of guys believe this has nothing to with their skill with woman and instead assign the blame to external factors. They claim that hot woman will only date men with tons of money, great looks, etc. They think they have to be rich and look like Brad Pitt to be a hit with the ladies. The reason people believe this is really to protect their own egos. It’s easier to blame the outside world than it is to take a good hard look at yourself. It’s easy to make excuses for why you don’t walk up and talk to the gorgeous woman you have your eye on in that nightclub, bar, or party.

Fear Of Rejection Is The True Reason Men Ignore This Crucial Part Of Their Life.

Let’s be honest. All straight men want to have great sex, and have beautiful woman in their life. Whether it’s a girlfriend, a fuck-buddy(s), or “the one” that your after, your a red blooded man, and you want a great sex life and hotties you can call up and go on dates with. It’s ironic that the same men that will make crude comments about the hot woman they would like to “bang” to their guy-friends, will clam up and perhaps even become upset and confrontational when the idea is brought up of having the balls to talk to her, or a suggestion is made that perhaps the skills needed to actually pick this woman up could be learned.

The reason for this is that what men are TRULY afraid of, is the cold sting of rejection. Most of us would rather get body slammed by a professional wrestler than feel rejected by a woman. We are attached to our fragile egos and we don’t want to risk the pain of being rejected. We take rejection personally, instead of having a healthy and truly confident attitude that it’s her loss and there’s plenty more fish in the sea. What’s interesting is that sometimes some of the best looking men are by far the worst offenders in this area. They may say things like “I just don’t care”, and consider themselves “too good” to learn seduction skills. This is also common in communities of the highly educated or geeky, for instance lawyers or computer programmers.

Why Very Few Men Are Naturally Good With Women

Quite simply, this essential area of life is rarely taught to us at any time in our life. We take sex education classes as kids  that actually try to convince us to remain virgins, and never to talk to strangers. We never once receive any instruction about social skills, and we tend to simply be sent right through high school into the real world, without any more social skills than what we may have stumbled upon interacting with classmates and teachers. Many people, for completely random reasons, do not fit into whatever the “cool” clique in high school may be, and develop crippling social anxiety and a feeling of not fitting in that remains with them sometimes, sadly, for life.

There are some kids in high school that just seem naturally cool and fantastic with woman. Is this because they won the genetic lottery? Not really. They may have good looks, or athletic abilities, but typically the real secret to their success is that they have a socially skilled father who either directly taught them some social skills, or simply transferred that social skill by osmosis. If your lucky enough to have had a strong father figure who had a great skill socially and with woman, than chances are you will be a greatly skilled “natural” with woman. If your not so lucky to have a strong father figure that taught you how to be good with women, it can really cause that area of your life to suffer, unless you put effort into changing it.

"Son, your mom left me for another man, women are bitches"

You see, our modern society is a very strange thing, compared to how humans have lived for thousands of years in tribes throughout the world. In many tribes throughout history there was an entire initiation process, into manhood, designed to develop true masculinity. These days, no such ritual initiation exists in our modern societies and the tribe does not raise children. Parents many times shelter their kids from the outside world. Kids get dropped off at high schools that many times resemble the rule of the jungle,  while both parents work all day. Almost none of the kids in high school are socially savvy, and being kids, they are almost all naive and have no idea of what actually matters in the real world. As a result high school turns out to be an incredibly cliquey and harsh environment for many kids, especially smart, nerdy (interesting external link: Why Nerds Are Unpopular), or unique kids who stick out from the pack. Most schools also have somewhat arbitrary tracking systems which separate kids into different tracks, from A to C, with kids in the C track getting all the substandard teachers and associating with all the substandard students. (watch the movie, waiting for superman for more on this, it’s an absolutely fascinating documentary, and it’s available on Netflix.)

This environment causes many bright, creative, and potentially fantastically charismatic kids (especially boys) to develop serious social anxiety that lasts well into their adulthood, sometimes even for life. Even in people who don’t develop social anxiety, a sort of herd mentality is many times the result, meaning that their is a great deal of distrust for the unknown and a desire to fit in that tends to make people “squares” who lives without passion, and take what they can get from life rather than making any attempt to live a life they truly desire. You see this in the people who simply go to college for some major that they think will pay well, and settle into a job they don’t care about, marry the first woman who will date them, and then have a midlife crisis where they divorce their wife and buy a motorcycle and a leather jacket.

Woman Desperately Want You To Become Socially Skilled

On the female side, many women are actually just as socially anxious as men, perhaps even more (women tend to commit suicide more, cut their wrists, have bipolar disorder etc). This is because a womens social anxieties are actually far more insidious. They typically have no problem meeting men, but they many times have a serious problem getting great girlfriends, and they usually do not have the confidence to actually go after the men they want. They usually just wait for men to talk to them and since so many men have a crippling social anxiety, they are sometimes waiting a long time and wondering “why can’t I find a good man”. It’s up to you to learn how to be good with women, because women are waiting for men to step up and figure it out.

On top of that, a lot of the men who have attained the confidence to talk to them, are men who became desperately frustrated with their prospects and heard that woman like “bad boys” and instead of becoming a socially skilled and confident man of value, they decided that being an asshole was the best way to attract woman. The sad part is, it can work, but it ultimately leaves both women and men deeply unsatisfied. Instead of learning to become an authentic and confident man that goes for what he wants, plenty of men just become drunken misogynistic carousers that take a wild shotgun approach and become “the man your mother warned you about”. This man typically leaves girls devastated and psychologically damaged, but he gets far more sex and dates than the stereotypical “nice guy”. The reason for this is really simple. The nice guy doesn’t approach and acts like a woman instead of a man. The “bad boy” just doesn’t give a fuck anymore and the confidence that can engender is sexually attractive to a women, and logistically they simply play the numbers game.

The truth is though, what women REALLY want is a GREAT GUY. They want to be with socially savvy, cool, fun guys that make them feel good. The bad boy makes them feel excited, but is like an addictive drug with bad side effects. A good man who learns confidence and skill with woman can FAR surpass the bad boy because he can make women feel a wide variety of good feelings and emotions.

Whether you want to sleep with lots of woman, find a girlfriend, or whatever, learning to be good with women is totally cool and you DO NOT have to become a bad person to do it. What you do have to get over, is things as needyness, lack of confidence, emasculation, bad fashion sense, etc. These are things that can be learned. It will take some time. You may fall off the bandwagon multiple times and go back to being needy and losing your confidence (I know because that’s happened to me before, it typically happens if you fall head over heels in love and think none of the skills you’ve learned apply anymore). As long as you keep going and actually apply what you learn, you eventually will succeed- you don’t need to have tons of money or look like Brad Pitt to get good at this. I’ll teach you the basics of how to be good with women on this website, and send you out there with some missions on the streets to build your confidence. I’ll also teach you how become good in bed and last for a long time during sex. If you get good at all of that you will gain a kind of inner confidence that will make you a much more happy and well adjusted human being, so it’s not only cool, but it’s the socially responsible thing to do. Woman love fun socially skilled men, who can give them great orgasms. Women love a man who knows how to be good with women.