Premature Ejaculation is not a sexual dysfunction. This is one of the most important concepts for someone suffering from premature ejaculation to understand. Since Premature Ejaculation can be a recognized sexual disorder in the medical profession, many men feel that their problem with not lasting long enough in bed is hopeless without extreme medical intervention. When they are diagnosed as having PE, they think that the only thing that will help them is pharmaceutical drugs.
This is a lie. The reasons for premature ejaculation are not because of a medical sexual dysfunction. Your sexual organs are not damaged or genetically deficient in some way. Of course, the medical establishment would love for you to believe this, as they can make a small fortune treating you accordingly, using expensive drugs, many times with dangerous side effects.
The real reasons for premature ejaculation are primarily psychological. There are many physical techniques that anyone can use to last longer in bed, but if you routinely last extremely short periods of time, like 30 seconds to 2 minutes, during sex, then it becomes clear that you have a psychological hangup.
The psychological reasons for premature ejaculation are many. The majority of the time, the most prevalent reason is a deep seated anxiety about sexual activity. This may have come from a strict religious upbringing where your sexuality was shamed and discouraged, perhaps viewed as a dirty thing. Making things even worse, some suffers of PE were caught masturbating during their childhood and severely punished or humiliated. You may have had this happen to you and not even remember because it happened so early in childhood. It’s also possible that your mind suppressed the traumatic experience, despite it’s continued effect in your life today.
To understand this you must have a basic grasp of psychology. The subconscious mind is distinct from the conscious mind. It stores and processes all of our experiences without our conscious awareness. It has great power over our behavior and emotions. When someone goes through a traumatic or undesirable experience, many times the subconscious will suppress the event from our memory. Our most deep fears and anxieties tend to come from the subconscious. You might be thinking your having a good day on paper, but your subconscious could be producing powerful negative emotions because of some unresolved issue that you are unaware of, causing you to wonder why your feeling so bad today for “no reason at all”.
The same thing applies to sex. You may think you are excited and ready for sex, but yet your subconscious is producing powerful anxiety and wants the experience to be over as soon as possible. Because of this, it forces you to ejaculate prematurely. Think of your subconscious mind as the same part of your mind responsible for sending you pain signals when you are doing something that is in some way injuring your body. If you put your hand on a scalding hot stove, it will start burning your skin. The minute you put your hand on that stove your brain will start sending increasingly intense sensations of pain through you. Your subconscious does the same thing regarding anxiety.
Emotional pain has the same purpose as physical pain. It is a signal from your subconscious that something is going wrong which will cause you emotional injury. Most people ignore those signals because they do not come with a print out telling you what you need to fix. Usually we are somewhat aware of what we might need to change in our lives but instead of taking action to fix the problems in our lives we simply ignore them or distract ourselves with drugs, alcohol, and entertainment. It is common for depression, just like PE, to be treated as a chemical, genetic imbalance, treatable only by drugs. So many people take psychiatric drugs which amount to painkillers, and never address the root of the problem.
In order to have a longer sex, it is imperative that you take stock of your life and what may be causing an anxiety toward sex in you. You must let go of your anxieties and replace them with confidence that you can last as long as you want during sex. To do this, simply practice the various techniques on this website as much as possible. Get comfortable with your body, get comfortable with thinking about, and having sex. It is for this reason that you should Practice With Masturbation to Last Longer. By becoming comfortable with your sexuality through masturbation you can gain confidence in your ability to last longer and longer while being sexually stimulated. It may take some time and practice for this to translate to an ability to last longer during sex, but with time you WILL achieve a longer sex length if you practice the techniques on this website.
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